Officially 2 years of having a healthy and regular cycle! Today I am sharing my journey of healing and how to get your period back naturally if you have lost it. From eating more food, working out less, supplementation, and educating myself, I discuss the things I have learned along the way and what has helped me.
We are celebrating 2 years since I got my period back and having it ever since! While that might not sound exciting for some, it is a huge milestone in my life after not having a cycle for 10 years. I am so passionate about this subject I wanted to write up a post since I know so many women struggle with it.
If you are not familiar with my history, you can check out my health and fitness journey. That post is a very in-depth look into my diet and lifestyle for the past 10-15 years of my life.
For a shorter version, I did not have a regular period for 10 years – I went on birth control in 2006 when I entered college. My cycle was never really regular and that is pretty much the go-to solution from doctors nowadays.
In 2008 I decided to go off birth control as I didn’t like how it was making me feel and was getting out of a serious relationship. Over the next 10 years, I struggled with food and fitness. I was very restrictive in my eating and over-exercised. I also lost 20-25 pounds over the next few years.
While I was never officially diagnosed with anything, I now know it was from over-exercising and drastically under-eating (hypothalamic amenorrhea). Running 14 miles a day, going to softball practice, and playing intramural sports while eating some yogurt and granola, fruit, and a veggie salad does not add up. Oh, and maybe some peanut butter so I wouldn’t go to bed completely starving.
I would also binge eat on the weekends to make up for all the food I didn’t eat during the week. This cycle of restricting and binging continued on for years. From 2008-2013, I had no period at all. The next 5 years or so (2013-2018), it would come randomly, but maybe only 15-20 times over those 5 years.
The importance of your period
To be honest, I liked not having my period for a while. No need to buy tampons, no worrying about it interfering with my social life, and being able to be sexually active without worrying about getting pregnant.
The thing is, your monthly cycle is extremely important – it is your monthly report card. When you don’t have a regular cycle (being on hormonal birth control is not a regular cycle and a fake bleed), your body is telling you something. It is shutting down that function because it does not feel safe and uses that energy for more important things, like breathing and digestion.
Having your period is your body telling you your hormones are working. That it feels safe and you are able to reproduce. It is the way of your body telling you of your general health and if it is healthy or not. I know those are bold statements, but when you really think about it, it’s true. The same goes for the symptoms of your period.
I suggest reading this article from NCBI for a more thorough explanation of your period and hormones and how not having your cycle affects your body.
It wasn’t until a couple of years ago as I was approaching 30, I realized this wasn’t healthy and if we wanted to start a family one day, I needed to look into fixing this. Note – we are not trying to get pregnant right now, but I think it’s important to have healthy hormones regardless if you want kids or not.
How to get your period back naturally
Getting your period back is not a one size fits all approach. There are many reasons why we might not have a healthy cycle, but there are a bunch of things we can do to help get it back. While everyone is different, here are things that I did to help get my period back:
Eating more food, especially carbs and fats, and stopping restriction of foods
Our body needs food to function. It needs the energy from the calories you eat to perform not only basic functions, but things like playing with your dog, doing the dishes, and running a few miles. From what I have experienced myself and through nutrition coaching, a lot of females are under-eating.
We are constantly told to eat less and work out more. That only gets you so far until your body catches up and you crash. Trust me, I’ve been there.
Carbs provide a good source of energy, support our microbiome, support our immune system, provide us with fiber to help eliminate waste, help with the activation of thyroid hormones, and have benefits for our period. The amount varies from person to person, but I would say most females need 150 grams of carbs a day for a healthy cycle. Low-fat diets can cause issues with females in the long term.
One of the main roles of fats and cholesterol is to help regulate hormonal function, especially estrogen and progesterone. We need healthy hormones to have a healthy cycle. A minimum of 60 grams of fat a day is usually a good starting place.
Most women need 1800-2000 calories a day according to the dietary guidelines! Then you add working out on top of that. And from what I have found, a lot of women undereat.
Making sure I was eating enough by tracking my macros
When you undereat for 10 years, it’s really hard to break that mindset. Tracking macros has helped me so much in ensuring that I am fueling my body properly for my activity level and lifestyle. It has also helped me so much in my food freedom and learning that all foods can fit. In my nutrition coaching, I work with others to help them learn this as well.
While this approach might not be for everyone, it is a great tool to use and is eye-opening to the foods we are eating (or not eating).
Decreasing my exercise, especially HIIT
I love the endorphins, the dripping sweat, and feeling like I died (wtf?!) in high-intensity workouts. The thing is, too much working out (since it is a stressor on our body) can have a negative impact on our body, especially if we are under-eating and already stressed. I now mostly do bodybuilding and lower intensity workouts and feel so much better.
Listening to my body
If I didn’t want to work out, I wouldn’t. If I wanted to eat pizza with my husband, I would. To be in tune with your body and not just pushing through a workout or eating salad and chicken because you think you should is a game-changer. More than likely, your body is telling you something.
Reducing Stress
Going along with what I said above, stress is a huge factor in our cycle. Have you ever been late on your cycle and realized you have been really stressed? It’s not a coincidence.
Stress impacts your hypothalamus, which is your master hormonal command center. If you are too stressed out, your hypothalamus reduces its signals to the pituitary, which helps with ovulation. Less signaling means less ovulation. Stress also increases cortisol and a chronic level of high cortisol can lead to HPA dysfunction (also called adrenal fatigue by some).
If you can, try to reduce stress. Whether it be from work, home, family, business, or whatnot. Running my own business is very stressful, but doing things like disconnecting from work/social media, getting outside, going on walks, getting out on the water, reading a book for fun, and cooking are super beneficial for me!
Educating myself
Learning more about healthy cycles, the female body, and hormones has been so helpful. Period Repair Manual (pictured above) is a great book for learning more about cycles. It breaks down your cycle and hormones, what a healthy cycle is, the effects of birth control and how it is not a period, ways you can heal your cycle, and more.
I believe everyone will benefit from reading this book whether you have your period or not. I reference it frequently and even send it to my nutrition clients that are struggling.
Currently, I do the fertility awareness method and track my cycle to have even more data about my body and hormones. Daysy (you can use that link for $15 off) has been so beneficial in learning when I am fertile, the duration of my cycle, and getting to know my own menstrual cycle.
Also using nutrition as a holistic approach – I am studying to be a nutritional therapy practitioner and diving into how food is so powerful to help heal the body.
This leads us to seed cycling…
Seed Cycling
I have a whole post on seed cycling, but it is a natural way to balance your hormones via food and has done wonders for my body. When I got my first period 2 years ago, it was a guessing game for when my next one would come. My cycles were around 37 days and sometimes pretty painful. But after years of implementing these things and seed cycling, they are now around 28-32 days and are pretty symptomless.
Many women struggle and have difficulties with their menstrual cycle. This includes cramping, breast tenderness, painful periods, acne, irregular cycles, heavy or light bleeding, PMS, infertility, and more. These symptoms are usually our body telling us there is some kind of hormonal imbalance.
Eating the right seeds through your cycle phases (follicular and luteal) can help with improving symptoms and balancing your sex hormones, leading to a healthier cycle.
Supplementation
Food and lifestyle is such a powerful tool, but supplementation can be really beneficial as well. It is definitely not a one size fits all approach, but these can be great options.
- magnesium – this mineral helps calm your nervous system and relax your muscles. It also has a role in the HPA axis and improves the function of your thyroid hormone and insulin. When we are stressed, which is a lot in the modern world, our magnesium is depleted. I like to take mine at night since it helps relax your body and can aid in sleep.
- zinc – this mineral also helps regulate your HPA axis and helps with your stress response. It also is an anti-inflammatory and is essential for hormones, so a deficiency can cause period problems. It can also help with period pain!
- vitamin D – I would suggest this if you get tested and are deficient. Also, if you don’t get outside that much. But vitamin D is so so important. It is essential for hormone function and the absorption of calcium (bones main building blocks).
- Maca – considered a “superfood” and is an adaptogen and a member of the cruciferous family. It helps regulate hormones (can help boost testosterone and reduce excess estrogen).
- Vitex – this can be an option if you have done a lot of things and you still don’t have your period as it supports ovulation. I would only suggest this for 3-6 months as it is very powerful. I would also read up on the effects and dosage.
Working with someone experienced
Back in 2018 I didn’t know what I know now and working with someone with experience can be super helpful! After years of knowing I needed to change, I needed someone there to help me along the way if I was actually going to change. To help me increase my food, listen to my concerns, and has experience with balancing hormones. There are plenty of nutrition coaches or RDs out there that specialize in this. Even I help women with this now!
Telling myself this is what is best for my body
Sure eating more food sounds easy, but what goes on in-between our ears is really hard. Knowing that while I used to be 20-25 pounds lighter, that wasn’t my healthiest or best self. When we reverse diet and add food back in, there is a possibility that some weight gain is going to happen. And if it does, it is your body telling you it needs to happen to get to a healthy place.
This has definitely been a struggle over the years, but the more and more I feed myself well, lift heavy weights, and have a healthy relationship with food and fitness, the more I love my body and appreciate how strong and amazing it is.
Foods that help you get your period back
I touched on this above, but carbohydrates and fat are really important for a healthy cycle. Like I said before, most women need 1800-2000 calories a day! Then you add working out on top of that. This list definitely does not hit on everything, but here are some things:
Carbohydrates:
- sweet potatoes
- white potatoes
- squash – butternut, acorn, spaghetti, delicata…
- pumpkin
- rice – white, brown, wild…
- quinoa
- oats
- ancient grains – barley, teff, farro, spelt…
- vegetables – ALL of them!
- plantains
- fruit
- beans and legumes – chickpeas, black beans, kidney beans…
- lentils
- sprouted bread
- sourdough bread
Healthy Fats:
- avocados
- olive oil
- coconut oil
- avocado oil
- ghee
- nuts
- seeds
- olives
- grass-fed beef
- salmon (wild-caught if you can!)
- whole eggs
- bacon
- cheese
- full-fat dairy
- nut butter – peanut, almond, cashew, pecan…
- coconut milk (full fat in a can)
- coconut butter
What I ate to get my period back
My diet is different from your diet, that is the neat thing about bio-individuality! A lot of the things I ate are actually listed above. With counting my macros and adding back in more food, I got to enjoy so many things I restricted for so long.
Some of my favorite things I ate to get my period back were all the potatoes (white and sweet!), white rice, oats, plantains, bread, full-fat dairy, cheese, coconut milk, grass-fed beef, and seeds from seed cycling. I also fully executed my food freedom and started to include things like pizza, bread, pancakes, muffins, ice cream, and desserts when I wanted to. Having these things when I wanted has really led me to a better relationship with food.
How to get your period back conclusion
Overall, this is what I found to help me get my period back. It was a long journey, but once I started implementing these things, my body thanked me for it. Not only did I get my period and am continuing to get my period, but I also live a much more balanced and sustainable life.
If you struggle with your period, know that you can do things to fix it. These are just simple things that could have a huge impact. They won’t ensure everyone’s period to come back but can be really beneficial to a lot of women. And do not wait until you want to have kids if you have period problems. These things can take years and having a healthy monthly cycle is a great way to get a glimpse into your general health.
If you have any questions or similar experiences, leave a comment below!
Please note that I am not a doctor and this is my own personal experience. If you have severe hormone imbalances and need individual support, consult with a holistic practitioner.
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meagan says
i had a read of the period repair manual and it says not to snack. to have lage meals instead. would you agree?
Kelly says
Yes, it does say that, but I also think it really depends on the person. For someone that is undereating, 1-2 snacks can help increase their intake. I find eating 3 large meals works really well for me, but some days I will have a snack or two depending on my activity and workouts. I think it’s best to listen to your hunger cues and if you are hungry, you should eat a snack and not restrict your food intake.
Hridi says
Hey..
Ur story was so so inspiring.My period was regular until I lost lot of weight within few months by eating less,after losing weight my period started getting irregular I didn’t got my period for last one year..what can I do to get my period?
Can you please help me a little bit more?
Kelly says
Sorry to hear you are going through that. You could have lost weight too quickly or lost too much weight as this is a stressor on your body. It’s hard to say without knowing more of your story, but I am guessing you reduced your food intake to lose weight? Trying to increase your food intake could help as undereating is a stressor on your body as well. Adding a little bit at a time and working up from there could help.
Lavvanya says
Hi
I’m 47, trying for a baby . 2 spontaneous abortions, one failed IUI and one failed IVF. We did IVF with our own cells only. My periods is irregular since 2 years. I get periods 9 months in a year. This month I saw just few spots and then white discharge only occurs. I’m a diabetic but sugar in somewhat control. I eat less carbs due to my overweight. So what can I follow to bring increased menses flow?
Kelly says
So sorry to hear you struggling. Your stress levels and eating can play a role, but it’s hard to know without knowing more about your history and lifestyle. I would suggest consulting with your doctor or a functional doctor to help.
Marissa Wagers says
I am really struggling getting my period back because I lost it cause of my eating disorder, Anorexia, which made major damage to my body and my mind because I didn’t know what I was doing, and I am wanting to jump the gun and try veto get it back which I have been trying but don’t know what to do or eat to get it back. can you please help me a little bit more?
Kelly says
Hey Marissa! Sorry to hear you are going through that. It’s hard to give a ton of advice without knowing more about your story, but I would check out the post on dialing back on exercising, reducing stress, and eating more. Hope that helps!
Essie majani says
Hey
Great info… I’ve bought all 4 seeds n will be implementing this method as you explained… I have secondary amenorrhea and I wanted to know if these seeds will help the vaginal dryness?!
Was l grateful to you?! Thanks again!!!
I love natural stuff though I’m a nurse practitioner and understand hormones very well. I should study holistic approaches like you stated in your disclaimer. Good stuff 👏
Kelly says
Hey Essie! I am honestly not sure if it will help with that honestly, but you could try and see. It wouldn’t hurt you know? Glad you found the post helpful!
Liz says
Thank you for sharing this – I am struggling with this as well. I know I need to eat in the morning but my body isn’t hungry. What type of breakfast foods would you recommend that will kickstart my metabolism and make sure I don’t hit into the “fasting state”?
Kelly says
Hey Liz, sorry to hear you are going through this! I would definitely recommend getting some food in your body within 30-60 minutes of waking up. I recommend a balanced meal/snack of protein, carbs, and some fat if possible. Carbs are important as you fast all throughout the night and are pretty depleted when you wake up, but you want to make sure you pair them with some protein and/or fat. If you aren’t super hungry, a smoothie can be helpful as you drink it instead of chewing and could be easier to drink rather than eat. Besides that, really anything that is easy for you (breakfast foods or not!).
Haley says
I haven’t as my period since last November. And before then, I had it only because the pill and it was on and off for years before then. I’m ready to get it back but I know it will require work. My doctors say that it’s normal and if I want it back to get on the pill. I need some help.
Kelly says
Hi Haley, I’m sorry to hear you are going through that. I would suggest trying out some of the things on the post (especially making sure you are eating enough) and seeing if that helps after a couple of months. Stress is going to be huge, so focus on reducing that as well if it is high.
Elena says
Thank you for sharing your experience and helping other women to find their recovery path. I am struggling for almost 6 years to get my period back but I recently discovered that all the pills and visit to the doctors won’t help me unless I seriously start to get over my eating disorder and anxiety. After reading about your results and studying in med school about the psychological impact of eating behavior and stress on the hypothalamus I shifted my focus on my emotional well being.
Kelly says
So glad to hear you are working on making that shift Elena! Wishing you the best of luck in getting your cycle back!
kiki says
How ur story is such an inspiring one, l have lost my period for 6months now and it’s really giving me a sleepless night, but I’ll try al these steps u listed and I know by God’s grace I’ll regain it
Kelly says
Wishing you the best of luck on getting your cycle back kiki!